*Disclaimer* This is my personal account of the natural
birth of my son. The thoughts and
opinions within this testimony are my own.
All pregnancies and birth experiences are exclusive to the individuals
involved. I respect the necessity of
particular birthing options within the realm modern medicine when applicable.
It is easier to
understand my personal stance on childbirth by my upbringing. My mother gave vaginal birth to 6
children. I was number 3. My two youngest brothers were home births,
and I always considered all-natural childbirth as the way to go. It is my hope that this story can provide
both information and inspiration for any woman considering a natural, drug-free
childbirth.
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| Baby Sterling, 9 hours old, and ready to go home! |
At 8:45pm on
Christmas Day 2012, my water broke while my husband, AJ, I watched Star Wars:
Return of the Jedi. I called my doula
from The Mothering Way, Ryka George, and the attending midwife at the Austin AreaBirthing Center-South, Vicki Meinhardt, to share the news. We spent the next hour finishing the movie
and resting up for the upcoming birth time.
By 10pm, I had experienced a few contractions, or as we like to call
them, birth waves. To me, they felt like
muscle spasms in my hip flexors and round ligaments surrounding my uterus. From 11pm- 12am, the contractions came in increasingly
regular intervals of 7-4 minutes apart. Since
my water had already broken, more fluid was expelled with each pulse, and I
spent most of that hour sitting backwards on the toilet. They increased in intensity to a point where
I no longer felt I could talk to my doula or midwife on the phone. We had learned in our birth class that this
was a physical sign post of Active Labor, and it was time to head to the
Birthing Center a few miles from our home.
We arrived at the
Birth Center at 12:30am, and were immediately greeted by Vicki and ushered into
the Folklife Room. Of the three birth rooms
at the Birth Center, the Folklife Room has the warmest feel to it with low lights,
hill country décor, and soft colored walls that give a womb-like feel. All rooms there are fully equipped with a
huge walk-in shower with a built-in bench, large bath tubs, a queen sized bed,
and individually decorated with a hip theme. I headed straight to the bed to keep myself
relaxed and started my birthing music playlist.
Vicki checked my progress and I was at the same point of progression
from my last belly check a few days prior; 95-100% effaced, 2-3 cm dialated,
and my cervix had moved posterior. She
adjusted it anterior to facilitate the process. At the beginning of the next wave, I realized
that I would not be able to manage them lying down. The muscle spasms were so intense and
powerful, I was in excruciating agony if I was not upright. My doula, Ryka, arrived shortly after and
quickly took to my side for support.
During a break between waves, I pointed out the areas of discomfort. Ryka suggested using
the hand sprayer in the shower directly on the tight muscles for relief. To my pleasant surprise, it made a world of
difference. I spent the next four hours moving
between standing in the shower, sitting on the toilet backwards, walking around
the room, and even doing squats to get through the waves of ever-increasing
intensity and quickening intervals. At
one point, I tried laboring in the bathtub, but due to the muscular activity of
the birth waves, it was not as effective for me as standing in the shower. Having
the ability to move around and constantly adjust my position was absolutely
paramount for me to manage labor drug-free.
As we recalled later, I treated this entire process like an athletic event. I relaxed between waves, even if it was just by putting my head against the wall, and going as limp as possible. I drank water regularly. I thought of the birth team like my pit crew in a race. AJ and Ryka were constantly by my side offering support. From rubbing my back to spraying water on my tiring muscles to pushing on my hips as if to open my pelvis like a clothes-pin, I could count on the two of them the entire night. As I had previously learned to endure some of my toughest CrossFit workouts, I ate coconut oil by the spoonful to not only keep me fueled, but to also help reduce inflammation. I sniffed Clary Sage essential oil to help with pain. To me, the process felt like a continuous Tabata workout at maximum intensity. I had no choice to sandbag a round, or take a break. My body just kept working. I thought of how each wave were my muscles doing the job to help bring my baby out, and focused on relaxing as much as possible between rushes. Modesty was out the window. I met each wave with a loud, low moan to melt into the ache like releasing tension during a deep massage. I imagined my body assisting the baby to move down. By 1:30am, I was 5cm dialated.
As we recalled later, I treated this entire process like an athletic event. I relaxed between waves, even if it was just by putting my head against the wall, and going as limp as possible. I drank water regularly. I thought of the birth team like my pit crew in a race. AJ and Ryka were constantly by my side offering support. From rubbing my back to spraying water on my tiring muscles to pushing on my hips as if to open my pelvis like a clothes-pin, I could count on the two of them the entire night. As I had previously learned to endure some of my toughest CrossFit workouts, I ate coconut oil by the spoonful to not only keep me fueled, but to also help reduce inflammation. I sniffed Clary Sage essential oil to help with pain. To me, the process felt like a continuous Tabata workout at maximum intensity. I had no choice to sandbag a round, or take a break. My body just kept working. I thought of how each wave were my muscles doing the job to help bring my baby out, and focused on relaxing as much as possible between rushes. Modesty was out the window. I met each wave with a loud, low moan to melt into the ache like releasing tension during a deep massage. I imagined my body assisting the baby to move down. By 1:30am, I was 5cm dialated.
At one point, I
remember the waves getting so incredibly intense, I thought I just couldn’t handle
anything stronger. We had learned in birth class that
this point is known as Transition, and it’s like reaching the top of the hill. It doesn’t necessarily get easier, but the
waves are supposed to stay at that intensity until the end. I asked for Vicki to check my progress. It was 3am, I was indeed in transition at 7-8cm
dialated. This is when most women go
through a period of doubt and desire to flee the scene. I remember thinking that this is like mile 20
in a marathon. Regardless of how
exhausted I was, it was time to suck it up and drive on to the finish line. I remember vividly a few major
thoughts in my head during this time.
1. How could anyone voluntarily do this more than once?
2. Savor the exquisite pain.
Stay in the moment and work through each wave as they come.
3. I am so glad I can move around to manage this. I am even more relieved that I have no option
for drugs at the birth center.
4. If I were
restricted to a bed, I would demand an epidural.
One hour later, I was almost completely
dialated, but there was a catch, literally.
Part of my cervix had become inflamed and a lip was caught on the top of
the baby’s head. We needed to allow the
baby’s head to mold to the birth canal as well.
Pushing was not an option, but it was all I wanted to do. I have no idea how I got through the next two
hours. Somehow, I managed to lie on my
side, fighting the urge to push, yet staying relaxed enough to let my body
continue to work. Vicki checked me every
20-30 minutes to put Evening Primrose oil on my cervix and give me arnica to bring
the inflammation down. Ryka stayed by my
side and held my hand while AJ rubbed my back.
The birth assistant, Cat, arrived and took over rubbing my back to give
AJ a break. She used Clary Sage oil on
my back which eased some of the back pain.
Those two hours tested my limits of mental fortitude and surrender; a
practice in total contradiction. At
certain moments, when I thought this is absolutely ridiculous, I would look
Ryka in the eyes, and as though she could read my mind, she would nod and say with
confident encouragement, “You’re doing it.”
I realized the true power of my body when I got up to use the toilet,
and involuntarily pushed with a wave. It
just overcame me, and without choice, I let out a grunt. I also tried getting in the bathtub again,
but experienced the same unintentional push with a wave. So, it was back to the bed, lying on my side.
Around 5:30am,
Vicki allowed me to “gently” succumb to the urge to push, but stay in my
side-lying position. She told me to push
a little if I desired, but not too hard.
It was a huge relief to at least get to give in to the urge, at least a
little. Finally, at 5:50am, Vicki told
me it was time to push. Due to the
irritation on my cervix, I had to stay on my back. But, when I was completely flat on my back,
the baby’s heart tone would drop. So, we
compromised, and I spent the next half hour in a half-side/ half-back position
pushing my little angel out. As we
neared the end, I realized why they call it the ring of fire. I tried to envision myself opening like a
lotus flower, but damn it burned like a flower of hell. Just when I thought I was going to faint from
exhaustion and pain, Vicki told me that she could feel the head and it had hair
on it. I reached down and felt my son’s
head, longing to emerge. Like the final
sprint of a race, I sucked it up and found strength from deep within to push
him further. I felt his head crown during
one of the waves, and creep back up slightly when it was over. During the next wave, I reached down as I
pushed and felt his head move. I took
another breath and pushed through the burning fire and kept my hand on his head
as it came out. There were a few seconds
of rest before the final wave rushed over me.
I looked at Vicki and asked if I could push him out. She encouraged me to finish the job. I took a deep breath and bore down as she
assisted my precious one into the world.
She immediately placed my baby on me so we were belly-to-belly. I was amazed that the first thing he did was
lift his head and look around. My doula noticed my awe and mentioned that this is completely common for un-drugged babies. As he let
out a small cry, I put my hand on his head and told him he was safe and
ok. He immediately relaxed. We soon discovered that the reason my cervix
had become inflamed was because the umbilical cord was short and did not allow
the baby’s head to travel straight though the birth canal. Instead, he was positioned slightly canted. Fortunately, this was not a life-threatening
situation, but a minor hitch in the birth process. Thanks to my wonderful birth team, we managed
to overcome the obstacle without harm to me or my baby.
Vicki swaddling Sterling so he can visit his big brother |
We waited until
my baby received all of the nutrient-dense cord blood from the placenta, and
the cord went limp before AJ cut him free. The placenta followed within 25 minutes, and I only needed 3 stitches for a minor tear.
Howard Sterling Rosenberg
was born at 6:18am on December 26, 2012.
He weighed 7lbs 14oz and was 21 1/4 inches long. He is named after my grandfather on my father’s
side (Howard), and AJ’s uncle on his mother’s side (Stirling). We are using Sterling as his first name. His birth was both the most intense and
magical moment in my life to date. I am
incredibly thankful to my husband and the birth team for helping this to be
such a positive experience for my child’s introduction to the
world.

Thank you for your story. As a first time expectant mother, I find solace in hearing your experience. It gives me ease knowing there are so many small things that can be done to assist with the pain and to know that AABC is such a great help. Most stories you read do not include the scary details that haunt our minds. Somehow, though intense and a bit scary, it is reassuring to hear someone tell their painful and beautiful story. So, thank you.
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